Our guest for today is Thais Gibson, the author of the best-selling book called ‘Attachment Theory: A Guide To Strengthening The Relationships In Your Life.’ She will speak about the necessity of engaging your subconscious mind to create success, overcome procrastination, and ban self-sabotage.
You can find out more about:
- Linking conscious and subconscious
- The danger of unmet needs
- Modeling positive behavior
Linking Conscious And Subconscious
Our goals often fail because we don’t recognize that our subconscious mind needs to align with the goal that our conscious mindsets. It is the source of self-sabotage because our conscious and subconscious minds are working against each other. Without getting them on board, it is impossible to make a lasting change. When sabotage or procrastination happens, understand what needs are being met from that experience, and then work to reprogram those patterns. That is the linking of the conscious and subconscious minds to work together.
There is a framework for discovering your subconscious programs. Identifying what inspires you, what you like to do, think or talk about with other people will show you the things that are already natural in your behavior. Those are the ones your subconscious needs. Linking conscious goals to the things your subconscious is inspired by is the best way to hack goal setting.
The Danger Of Unmet Needs
Every decision we make is to get a specific need met. If we don’t know the deepest roots of our decisions and goals, then we are limited in the ability to create and drive our motivation. Unless you know your personality needs, you can’t establish a clear vision of what you want in life.
When we don’t know our needs, we can’t get them met. It means that we can’t be motivated and inspired, which results in resentment. Unfulfilled people start acting out of desperation, and it can lead to very negative behaviors. That is why one of the most critical things we can do for ourselves and our relationships is getting in touch with our subconscious.
Modeling Positive Behavior
In times of crisis, people often surrender to self-pitty. However, we should focus our energy on thinking about solutions instead of feeling victimized by the problem. It’s about coming up with creative strategies to get more of what we need. We get angry about global issues, but we can’t impact them. We can only affect ourselves and those around us. Collective change happens when each individual takes accountability for their lives.
One of the most effective ways the subconscious mind gets programmed is through things that are modeled to us. Pursuing people to follow our lead could be counterproductive, as they might get defensive. Instead, it’s best to inspire others to improve and change by our own example. That is true leadership.
John is the Amazon bestselling author of Winning the Battle for Sales: Lessons on Closing Every Deal from the World’s Greatest Military Victories and Social Upheaval: How to Win at Social Selling. A globally acknowledged Sales & Marketing thought leader, speaker, and strategist. He is CSMO at Pipeliner CRM. In his spare time, John is an avid Martial Artist.