Paul’s success in helping others led him to write the best-selling acclaimed book, “Take Control of Your Life,” published by HarperCollins Canada, and that book has been credited for saving lives and helping hundreds of people deal with anxiety, depression, self-sabotage and a number of other human conditions. His book has increased significantly in sales and popularity since COVID-19 as it deals with precisely what we’re all experiencing at this very moment. Paul is also the author of “Dammit, Just Ask!”, a book on how to ask and negotiate for what you want in life and in business, as well as “The Take Control of Your Life companion journal”.
Breaking the Cycle of Self-Sabotage
Self-sabotage refers to the act of deliberately damaging or obstructing something about ourselves, particularly our thoughts and beliefs. Negative narratives can easily take control of our mind, leading to a pattern of learned helplessness. However, it is crucial to recognize and challenge these negative thoughts to break the cycle of self-sabotage.
Recognizing Negative Thoughts
Bob, who let you down, can be a negative voice in your mind. By giving it a name, you are taking control of your thoughts and separating yourself from negativity. To improve your mental wellness, it’s important to focus on positivity. Surround yourself with positive people and things, such as inspirational videos or podcasts, and start your day with intention by taking a few moments to be grateful and tell yourself positive affirmations.
Challenging Negative Thoughts
To overcome self-sabotage, it is essential to dispute negative thoughts and focus on positive things. By making it a habit to do so, it will soon become a norm. Great minds like Tony Robbins still face negative thoughts, but they dispute them and focus on positivity to overcome self-sabotage.
Influences from the Outside World
Society often dictates what the perfect ideal body, income, and life should look like. However, it’s crucial to reflect on ourselves and strive for growth rather than comparison to others. Overcome imposter syndrome by changing your narrative and believing in yourself. Successful people had to start somewhere and overcome their own doubts and fears. By conditioning your mind and changing the words used to describe yourself, you can take control of your success and happiness.
Responsibility for Mental Wellness
Your life and mental wellness are your own responsibility. You are the creator of your own story, and it’s up to you to write the next chapter. Examine your life and learn from past experiences, but don’t dwell on them. To improve yourself, you need to do the work. Change your thoughts and direction if something is not working. The conscious mind is the captain of the ship, and it’s crucial to think positively and have a growth mindset.
The Power of the Unconscious Mind
The unconscious mind is like a crew working for the captain. If the captain says, “I can’t do this,” the crew will take actions to keep the person in a state of defeat. However, if the captain says, “I can do this,” the crew will work to find ways to make it happen. Each person transmits vibrations to the world, and if a person transmits low frequency vibrations, they will attract low frequency people and experiences. On the other hand, if a person raises their energy level, they will attract positive people and experiences.
The Secret to Success
Paul’s background as a police officer and his journey to becoming an author, screenwriter, and speaker is a testament to the power of belief in oneself. He shares that his experiences, including abuse from his father and being told by teachers that he wouldn’t amount to anything, could have held him back. However, he chose to believe in himself and took risks, becoming a multitalented individual. The secret to success, according to Paul, is simply believing that you can.
John is the Amazon bestselling author of Winning the Battle for Sales: Lessons on Closing Every Deal from the World’s Greatest Military Victories and Social Upheaval: How to Win at Social Selling. A globally acknowledged Sales & Marketing thought leader, speaker, and strategist. He is CSMO at Pipeliner CRM. In his spare time, John is an avid Martial Artist.