“We should practice by showing one another love and helping one another. It is a mistake to pursue happiness and to seek to avoid suffering by deceiving and humiliating other people. We must try to achieve happiness and eliminate suffering by being good-hearted and well-behaved.” —Dalai Lama
When you fail in life, people often ignore you. Some people show their true colors by ridiculing, insulting, and humiliating you. Don’t waste your precious time by reacting to them. Understand their inner intentions. Work hard to establish and excel. When you achieve success, they approach you with a list of requests and favors. Smile at them. This is the first school of thought.
When people insult you, it reflects their image. You can understand their character. Pity them. If you retaliate there will no difference between you and them. The ideal option for you is to ignore them and move on with your life. This is the second school of thought.
If you find that there is some substance when people humiliated you, take intrapersonal feedback, thank the person, and move on. Accept the reality that no person is entirely and no person is entirely bad. This is the third school of thought.
Wise people channel their energies on creative and productive activities to prove themselves instead of responding to toxic people. Winston Churchill once remarked, “You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.” So, focus on your goals. This is the fourth school of thought.
When people challenge you, you unlock your hidden power. You explore ways and means to counter them and prove yourself. Hence, treat insults and humiliations as blessings in disguise. John Donne rightly remarked, “Humiliation is the beginning of sanctification.” This is the fifth school of thought.
If you take toxic people seriously, they hurt you more. So, don’t take them seriously. Remove negative people from your memory and replace them with positive people. Surround with inspiring people to energize yourself. This is the sixth school of thought.
Life is an experiment with successes and failures. In success, you cannot recognize your friends whereas, in failure, you can recognize your true friends easily. It is rightly remarked that prosperity brings friends while adversity tests them. The takeaway is not to be excited with successes and dejected with failures. Take both equally. This is the seventh school of thought.
Tips to Overcome Insults and Humiliations
“Don’t give to anyone the power to put you down. Haters are losers pretending to be winners.” —Paulo Coelho
Be positive. Believe in yourself. Build self-esteem. Become resilient by nurturing your self-worth. Stay away from naysayers. Avoid mean and toxic people. Don’t compare yourself with others. Compete with yourself. Raise your bar. Be simple and become humble. Look at the door that is opened. Avoid bad-mouthing about them. Be kind and compassionate with yourself. Time will heal the wounds. Keep working hard to prove yourself. Journal the insults and humiliations that may serve you to write an autobiography in the future.
Don’t merely look at the successes of the achievers. Look at their failures and the tough times they underwent to reach their tipping point. All successful people have hidden stories behind them. Some people converted their scars into stars and converted their brickbats into bouquets. Mahatma Gandhi was humiliated when he traveled in the first-class compartment in South Africa. It changed him forever and he fought for equality and independence. So, instead of bowing out, come out with greater force for the greater good.
Covert Your Scars into Stars
“We all get humiliated at some point or another during our lives. The trick is not to let it make you resentful or defeatist.” —Jane Stanton Hitchcock
Understand the fact that the world respects only achievers, not failures. Remember that nobody can achieve greatness without facing failures, insults, and humiliations. To summarize, insults, humiliations, and failures are an integral part of everybody’s life. How you overcome them demonstrates your character. The ideal option is not to retaliate them. Ignore them because you know your true worth better than anybody else in the world. Learn lessons from such people and move on with your life. Life is great.